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My Father, My Unlikely Hero | A Father’s Day Tribute

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He married my Mother. In the 1940’s it was the right thing to do under certain circumstances. For that, he is my hero.

In the 50’s he gave up his career as a jazz musician for his family and tried to settle into suburban life. For that, he is my hero.

In 1961, just when they were settled into family life with their three teens, I came along. He never wavered, I was Daddy’s little girl, the apple of his eye. For that, he is my hero.

In 1966 my mother became gravely ill. He worked and did his best to care for his family. For that, he is my hero.

Without my mothers help in running the business, it failed. Along with that came massive medical bills and bankruptcy. He kept plugging along. For that, he is my hero.

In amongst the fragile foundation of their marriage crumbling around him, he committed to providing home dialysis care for my mother. For that, he is my hero.

Within the boiling pot of drama and dysfunction around his affair and their separation, he never once spoke badly of my mother to me. For that, he is my hero.

In order to accommodate his love for me and his love for his girlfriend, he went against my mothers strong (and utterly hurt based) rules that I was not to be anywhere near “her”. It was the only way he could see spending more time with me. For that, he is my hero.

He was there for his children when our mother died. For that he is my hero.

No matter how ill and fragile he became, he always had a fun little game or trick to play with my sons. They loved their grandfather. For that, he is my hero.

On his deathbed, his words “Honey, why are your working so hard?” changed my view of proving I could be a career woman and sent me on a path of self-discovery. For that, he is my hero.

Now ten years after his passing, I still feel his love. For that, he is my hero.

For most of my life, I looked back upon my childhood and only saw the dysfunction. It was a crazy ride that could prove to be a script for a soap opera. I had allowed the pain and heartbreak to define me for much of my adult life.

It wasn’t until I learned how to dig deep within gratitude that I was able to let go, forgive and look back at my childhood with a lens of love and empathy.

Had I written this list prior to doing the gratitude work it would have felt like an assault on my father instead of a tribute. Gratitude helped me open up to see that he never, ever intended to hurt anyone. That is the power of gratitude.

June 19, 2016 |

Sampsons Body Balance is looking for Therapists, Nutritionists or Naturopaths

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Picture your sign at 183 Bayfield St. where 35,00-45,000 cars a day will see it.
Sampsons Body Balance has an office available for health practitioners like: Therapists, Nutritionists, Naturopaths etc.

This opportunity turn key includes:
Free parking
Large treatment room fully equipped
Complete office setup
Point of Sale terminal/services
Phone and answering service
Some clientele
bookkeeping software
and much more.

Let’s talk. Please call Eileen Sampson 705-252-5531.

June 5, 2016 |

YOU Working With YOU, your path to your success passess right through you.

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With so many “get rich quick” schemes being offered, or diet fads that promise to make you something you are not, or band-aid solutions that you should be skeptical of, it is refreshing to see someone offer a true perspective on how to develop oneself and achieve those things that you are willing to work for.

Effort = equals results. How else can you get to where you want to go?

Look no further than yourself, what you do, how you do it, why you do it as that is where you will find the answer.

Start with my attached Goals Success Plan Sheet, and work from there. Please contact me should you want to book my services in order to help you influence others.

Namaste.

Richard

June 1, 2016 |

HAVE A GREAT LIFE!

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Hello!

I hope this post finds you saying “YES” to your life and letting your exhale go!

I certainly don’t have all the answers to “Having a Great Life”, but my book BREATHE and my seminar Enlightened Living both address the issue of:

How we often stop ourselves from having a great life. Both the book and the Seminar help us understand how we get in our own way and how to work with three simple strategies.

For example, one way to cope with our day to day lives: the little picture, is to tune into our Soul’s plan for us: the bigger picture. We open to this with the Meditation skill I introduce. It isn’t complicated.

Another example: How we cope with our physical and psychological pain. Old habits of denial, fear and repression, which create many problems for us in the long run, can be ‘released’ when breath awareness is part of our life.

There is a third skill that helps eliminate physical pain, increases energy and optimism, and deepens breathing. The Alexander Technique principles.

This is exciting, practical stuff and helps with your spiritual practice.

Join myself and others either: Sunday afternoon May 29th, or June 26th ($60), to explore this information that inspires, heals, and energizes. Remember, skill power, not will power, will more likely get you to where you want to go!

And if you want to repeat this class, come to the Refresher Class on Thursday, May 26th, for 1.5 hours, at my home/office: 20 Poyntz St. $30. I plan to offer both classes again in October.

Also, Nutrition Plus is offering a FREE 1 hour Introduction on Wednesday morning June 8th from 10:30 to 11:30.

You can go to my web site to buy the book BREATHE in audio, print or e book format. I have hard copy print books and audio books for sale in my office as well. http://enlightenedliving.me/#products

Thanks for your support and for lending your ear. Help me change the world one person at a time, by learning this yourself and sharing it through your own life. Best to you! Have a great life!

Carol Martin

 

May 19, 2016 |

The Importance of the Franchise Interview

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A Franchise is like a Marriage

Recently my husband and I were interested in purchasing a franchise in the restaurant industry. We were looking at two different chains, had done our research on both, ate at both, liked what we originally saw and decided to meet the owners or franchise operator at both. At the first meeting, we met with the President and Franchise Operator at one of their restaurants (deemed their head office) who were both very gracious and hospitable, friendly, accommodating and really seemed to care about their franchisees and expressed that we would be a great fit. We came away having enjoyed a lovely lunch, felt positive that this was going to be a “good marriage” and even applied to be a franchise owner.

The second interview a few days later with the other franchise, one we were most excited about, was with the President whom we met at their head office. The door was locked but promptly opened by the President. He shook our hand and introduced himself then led us into a pristine boardroom and told us exactly where to sit.

He then left us there for what seemed like ten minutes, likely just enough time so we could read all the dipliomas and certificates he has earned on the “Wall of Me” displayed to our immediate right from where we were sitting. Our meeting was at noon, having come from an hour and a half away and interestingly, even though he had a full kitchen behind him, and was in the hospitality industry, not once did he offer us a coffee, a slice of cake, not even a glass of water! This fellow was the most toxic, negative and vindictive individual I have ever met! He went on ad nauseum how the 9 of the current 12 franchisees shouldn’t be running his business and how he wants to oust them as they should never have been allowed to be a franchise owner in the first place! He even stated to stay how he hates people.

Now this is the President and franchise operator of a company with 13 locations across Ontario, that has been in operations for 20 years and who, in my opinion, should not be dealing with people at all! He did nothing to sell us on becoming franchise owners, told us how he needs to replace many of the current owners with managers, take them over as corporate stores (because only he knows how to run them), and work on saving the brand. The diversity in personality from the first franchise operators to this one was like night and day! This shows how important an interview is when investigating a franchise.

When we left, we knew immediately that this was not a franchise we would buy into EVER! We realize that when buying a franchise, one needs to feel comfortable with everyone involved, feel that the head of the operation has your back and wants to help you be successful. Buying into this second franchise would be none of this! It would a total disaster and we feel sorry for the current owners having to work with this guy, knowing he only wants to get rid of them.

In the end, we decided not to purchase either franchise but instead work on our own independent business that we have built over the past 2 years, is on a good trend, is valued, has a great reputation with lots of opportunities still to come. We feel very comfortable in our decision after what we had learned from the interviews, doing more research and realizing that we have a good thing right under our nose, that we are creative, hard-working individuals who could do things better than either franchise and still treat people well!

May 19, 2016 |

What Is Your LOVE LANGUAGE?

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I read Dr. Gary Chapman’s book “The 5 Love Languages” years ago. I have to say; this amazingly simple message has had a huge impact on all of my relationships, most importantly my marriage. It has also helped me coach my clients around their relationships.

Please take less than 15 minutes to go through this LOVE LANGUAGES TEST and also, encourage anyone close to you to take it as well.

This book and this test created a whole new level of self-awareness within me that has helped me understand what I need from my husband in order to feel loved.

It also wasn’t a surprise to me that we both have very different love languages!

So what do we do with this information? I suggest that you first articulate your love languages to your significant other. My hubby is an amazing man but I don’t expect him to read my mind, the poor guy, I’m hard enough to understand at times!

The second is to look at what their love languages are and make sure you make a conscious effort to show them love, their way.

A very wise former colleague of mine used to say we have it all wrong, it isn’t ‘ do unto others as you would have done unto yourself. ’ it is ‘ do unto others as they would have done unto themselves .’

After you take the test please leave me your comments below! I would love to hear your thoughts! 

May 4, 2016 |

A Milestone Birthday Ignites a New Passion

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My Fitness Journey 2015

Reaching the age of 50 last year was a turning point in my life – both for my health and fitness. While I have always considered myself to be “healthy” – eating sensibly and staying reasonably active throughout my life, this milestone year set off a new bench- mark. Call it a rebellious act, a mid-life crisis decision or just a desire to prove to myself what I can do, I decided to set a crazy-ass goal of training for, and competing, in my first bodybuilding competition – at age 50!

I had been approached about 30 years ago by a gym owner to consider bodybuilding. Not knowing much about the sport, visions of Amazon-like women with heaps of muscle filled my head so I flatly refused and said, “No, I do aerobics, thanks,” (which I did faith- fully about 3-4 times a week). Over the years, however, I became more attracted to the look of toned muscle on women, feeling it looked, in my opinion, sexier and more attrac- tive than just smooth, soft arms and legs. I came to regret being so close-minded about the idea of female bodybuilding and thought recently, why not now?

Not wanting to injure myself nor affect my health metabolically, I hired an experienced coach who came with glowing testimonials from others and who had competed suc- cessfully for the past 5-6 years, reaching both Pro and judging levels. We set out mid- August of 2015 on my 15 week plan in preparation for the upcoming OPA (Ontario Physique Association) November 28th Bikini competition – the last one of the year. In just 3 short weeks, I started noticing major differences in my body which in of itself was very motivating. My arm, back and shoulder muscles started to grow at a fast rate then shortly thereafter my six-pack appeared. Next my legs became leaner and my butt more robust – like never before.

The motivation to work out 2.5-3 hours daily for 5 days a week came from a combina- tion of factors. First, having a set deadline (November 28th as the competition date) was a huge motivator to keep pushing myself. Then hearing the many positive comments and feedback from others of how I was inspiring them to get on the healthy, fit track motivated me to complete my goal as well. Once I proclaimed it to my family and friends, both in person and online through social media, I had a mission to complete my goal. I not only had to prove it to myself, but to others too, what can be done at age 50!

Seeing the results myself in my body was very self-motivating. I have never felt and looked so good!

I love feeling strong and energized, and looking muscular and curvy no matter what I am wearing. When I am in the gym working out, with my powerful music playing in my headphones, I am in my Zen world. It is therapeutic for me, even a rush. I truly miss the rush of working out when it is a “Rest” day. One could say I have become addicted to the training and the competition process.

While I had originally set out with a goal to just be able to walk on stage and say, “I did it,” I now want to go further. I love this journey and want to continue with the hopes of making it to the National level. So no, I am not stopping, even after the age of 50!

The biggest reward to me is inspiring others to lead a more active, healthier lifestyle. And whether through writing, speaking and/or training, I would endeavour to help others simply be better overall – to live, love and enjoy life more!

PS. As it turned out, I came in second place in my age division and also qualified for the Provincials in June, 2016! So stay tuned…..

May 4, 2016 |

Get out of your cocoon!

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Back in 2006 my world changed dramatically in many ways. My beloved father passed away, both of my sons left for college the same week, we moved from our beautiful home in Barrie to a “make do” rental and began the ominous task of building our own home.

I became mildly depressed, hid myself from the world, quit something I loved which was skating, an adult synchronized skating team, stopped exercising and ate my way up to thirty pounds.

It truly felt like I had woven a cocoon around myself, limiting me from living my life fully.

We can blame the circumstances in our lives or the people who let us down or hurt us for our cocoon, or we can take responsibility for what we allowed to affect us. Until I took responsibility, looked in the mirror (with disgust) and decided that this wasn’t how it was going to be, only then could I begin to push my way out.

I joined Weight Watchers, lost the weight and became a leader. That job fed my soul and my need to help others and feel needed. I found Zumba and became an instructor where again, I fed my soul and body.

Now that path has led to my ultimate joy, coaching others to get out of their cocoon.

This is why you see BUTTERFLIES in my branding, they represent the beauty that life brings us when we let go of what doesn’t serve us anymore.

Contact me to learn how to release yourself from the cocoon that life has woven so you can take flight towards your dreams, goals and desires.

April 29, 2016 |

The Importance of the Interview when Investigating a Franchise

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A Franchise is like a Marriage

Recently my husband and I were interested in purchasing a franchise in the restaurant industry. We were looking at two different chains, had done our research on both, ate at both, liked what we originally saw and decided to meet the owners or franchise operator at both. At the first meeting, we met with the President and Franchise Operator at one of their restaurants (deemed their head office) who were both very gracious and hospitable, friendly, accommodating and really seemed to care about their franchisees and expressed that we would be a great fit. We came away having enjoyed a lovely lunch, felt positive that this was going to be a “good marriage” and even applied to be a franchise owner.

Poor Hospitality and Toxic Attitude

The second interview a few days later with the other franchise, one we were most excited about, was with the President whom we met at their head office. The door was locked but promptly opened by the President. He shook our hand and introduced himself then led us into a pristine boardroom and told us exactly where to sit. He then left us there for what seemed like ten minutes, likely just enough time so we could read all the diplomas and certificates he has earned on the “Wall of Me” displayed to our immediate right from where we were sitting.

Our meeting was at noon, having come from an hour and a half away and interestingly, even though he had a full kitchen behind him, and was in the hospitality industry, not once did he offer us a coffee, a slice of cake, not even a glass of water! This fellow was the most toxic, negative and vindictive individual I have ever met! He went on ad nauseum how the 9 of the current 12 franchisees shouldn’t be running his business and how he wants to oust them as they should never have been allowed to be a franchise owner in the first place! He even stated how he hated people. Now this is the President and franchise operator of a company with 13 locations across Ontario, that has been in operations for 20 years and who, in my opinion, should not be dealing with people at all!

He did nothing to sell us on becoming franchise owners, told us how he needs to replace many of the current owners with managers, take them over as corporate stores (because only he knows how to run them), and work on saving the brand.

The diversity in personality from the first franchise operators to this one was like night and day! This shows how important an interview is when investigating a franchise.

To Care or Not to Care…that is the Question!

When we left, we knew immediately that this was not a franchise we would buy into EVER! We realize that when buying a franchise, one needs to feel comfortable with everyone involved, feel that the head of the operation has your back and wants to help you be successful. Buying into this second franchise would be none of this! It would a total disaster and we feel sorry for the current owners having to work with this guy, knowing he only wants to get rid of them. Caveat Emptor!

Stick to Our Own

In the end, we decided not to purchase either franchise but instead work on our own independent business that we have built over the past 2 years, is valued, built on a solid reputation, and is on an upward sales trend with lots of opportunities to expand.

We feel very comfortable in our decision after what we had learned from the interview, having done more research and realizing that we have a good thing right under our nose. We are creative, hard-working individuals with an incredible work ethic and vision who are confident in continuing to build our own business as a success story…while still treating people with the dignity and respect they deserve. In essence, living and running our business by The Golden Rule!

April 27, 2016 |

Who Should you spend time with to increase sales & referrals

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One of the greatest challenges that small business owners face is effective time management, especially as it relates to sales development and relationship building. Almost every day, I hear from business owners who are frustrated that the huge amount of time that they spend developing relationships that doesn’t translate into increased sales. It doesn’t have to be that way!

Welcome back to Mr. Bob’s Marketing Masterminds blog! This week, I’d like to share the story of my friend, Bruce, who developed a powerful sales funnel using the Marketing Masterminds program.

I have a good friend named Bruce. We both like systems that make our lives simple. With our collective knowledge we came up with Bruce’s Funnel system. We took Bruce’s entire market and put them at the top of an imaginary funnel. As potential consumers became more and more interested in Bruce’s products, they became hotter and hotter prospects as they reached the spout at the bottom of the funnel.

The prospects then became customers. That is the model of how we qualified his potential market. The reason for this model was to put in place promotions that would move a prospect towards being a customer. Newsletters, seminars and articles accomplished this for Bruce.

Bruce was now free to spend more time on productive things. Of course, he spent time working with his customers but he recognized that he needed to build better relationships and turn customers into clients. Customers just buy products whereas with Clients you have a stronger relationship and know their individual needs.

Bruce also recognized that there was a third category to focus on. These categories produced referrals and in some cases were not customers or clients. They could be friends, family and associates. He recognized that this resource was his most profitable.

Bruce’s strategy was to concentrate on building more word of mouth referrals from his existing referral partners and spending time to increase this referral network to others.

In summary;
• Educated clients refer others to you with their highest recommendations.
• Referral prospects are sold before they even hear your voice.
• Customers that buy from you once are looking to see how you do business.
• The second and third sales are usually larger.
• Bring referrals to your clients meetings and be seen a partner

When you match their expectations then these clients tell their friends and give you referrals.
If you’re interested in learning more about Marketing Masterminds, give me a call at 705-721-0727 or e-mail marketinginbarrie@gmail.com. I love your blog, Bob!.
Robert “Mr. Bob” Cassels is the founder of www.marketingmasterminds.ca. Marketing Masterminds provides online and in-person resources for entrepreneurs looking to launch, grow, or promote their businesses.

April 16, 2016 |
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